There are only a handful of us who are still doing this work after 20 years…
And we’ve seen the industry change SO much.
20 years ago, there weren’t any dating apps, situationships weren’t a thing, and heterosexual gender roles were assumed.
Women wanted a husband, and men wanted… well, you can imagine!
As that MUCH younger me read through stacks of books (He’s Just Not That Into You, The Rules, Why Men Love B*tches, How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You, The Game)…
Scrolled through online courses (Double Your Dating, The Mystery Method, Magic Bullets)…
And talked to anyone and every one, I began to realize that dating advice was just a bunch of people saying what they thought worked.
Where was the science? Where were the studies?
Fast forward 20 years, and I’ve got studies coming out of my ears! I’m overjoyed that academia has decided that attraction and mating is worth its attention. (Let’s fanboy over Dr. Eli Finkel, but don’t get me started about David Buss!)
Providing a historical perspective are historians like Stephanie Coontz (Marriage: A History), Moira Wegel (Labor of Love), and Beth Bailey (From Front Porch to Back Seat).
If you add what therapists and couples experts like the Gottmans and Terry Real and Sue Johnson are saying…
And keep your finger on the pulse by watching TikToks and YouTubes by Therapy Jeff, Jimmy On Relationships, and Matthew Hussey…
You start to understand dating advice like no one else alive.
I’m the dating expert’s dating expert.
I see it as an industry, a historical phenomenon, an expression of modern culture, and a path that leads to healthy relationships or much unhappiness.
So my work isn’t for everyone.
It’s for people who like to think.
I’d rather ask you provocative questions than give you simple instructions.
And I want you prepared for tomorrow!
I’m not going to give you your mother’s mother’s dating advice, because we don’t live in that world anymore. The world is changing SO fast. Everything we thought was true is now up for grabs.
Want to try my advice and see if it rocks your world?
Then join me on the great adventure of love!
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