If there’s one place we tend to feel incredibly powerless, it’s in love.
We feel like men have all the power.
They have the power to say, “I don’t feel that way about you anymore.”
They have the power to make us do things their way… or face losing them.
They have the power to make us feel like a goddess… or small and exhausted.
And when we seek advice to make things better, we get man-centered tips to:
“Act more feminine. Make him feel like a man.”
“Don’t stress him out. Take your problems to your girlfriends, not him.”
“Be light and happy. Men don’t like women who are hard work.”
“Keep yourself attractive for him. When’s the last time you went to the gym?”
That advice fails us by teaching us to please men…
Rather than figuring out what pleases us, and go after that!
You should feel strong and confident in love.
You shouldn’t feel as if you have to play by men’s rules.
That’s why I teach a new breed of love advice in my newsletter series.
I won’t teach you how to attract men. Because “men” isn’t what you’re after, is it?
What you want is LOVE.
Love with a capital ‘L.’
Love as M. Scott Peck and bell hooks define it:
As the willingness to extend yourself to support another person’s happiness and wellbeing.
By that definition, not all men have the capacity to love.
They’re perfectly willing to have a good time.
They enjoy everything you do for them.
But do they consider your wellbeing to be as important as their own?
Enough to extend themselves to support you (even though it does nothing for them but make extra work)?
The world has changed. The responsibility of love (rather than the pleasure) isn’t something everyone wants.
That’s why you need a new breed of love advice.
Advice that respects how intensely you feel towards him, but also teaches you to self-advocate.
Loving him isn’t enough.
You also have to be able to create Love together.
And that’s a project that takes two.
