Joy is at the heart of the life we yearn for.
And it’s what’s missing for many of us.
We get it in flashes: at Christmas watching the kids open their presents, waking up in bed on a lazy Sunday with the man we love, hiking up to a hilltop and taking in the view.
But most of our life is drudgery. Doing what needs to be done. The same routine every day and every week and every year.
Being the one everyone depends on. Remembering everything you know they’ll forget. Standing in the kitchen at 11pm prepping lunches for tomorrow, knowing you won’t be able to sleep until everything is done.
That’s why I wrote The Pleasure Principle.
Because, as women, we lose ourselves.
We devote ourselves to others, to all the jobs and tasks and chores, and then…
We wish and hope someone will take care of us for a change.
We wait for our partner to surprise us with a gift or a date night.
We wait for our kids to say, “You’re the best, Mom.”
We wait for our boss to recognize our contributions and give us a raise.
And when no one recognizes how much we’re killing ourselves to make their lives smoother…
Our hearts sink. We get worn down. We know there’s a point to it all, but we don’t feel it.
Magazines and influencers will tell you the answer is self-care. You know it’s not.
Buying yourself a spa day or some fancy bath salts just underscores the fact that you have to do this for yourself, because no one else is going to bother.
Self-care is important, but it can feel incredibly lonely… because it’s you doing something for yourself.
It’s not the people you love taking good care of you.
But what if you could motivate the man you love – or the man you’re dating – to enjoy putting a smile on your face?
What if he did those little things for you because it was so intrinsically rewarding for him to see you enjoy them?
That’s the path of The Pleasure Principle.
