It’s 2005. I’m in my first job as a dating expert.
I know that if I’m going to succeed at this job, I can’t just study books and online courses.
I’ve got to date like my career depends on it.
Luckily, it’s the golden era of online dating.
This is twenty years ago, before dating apps and swiping soured many people on finding love online.
There’s still a beautiful earnestness about the men I meet.
They’re lonely, shy, and sweet. They just want to connect with someone nice.
And I have a selling point. I’m a young foreigner in their town who wants to learn and experience everything their country has to offer.
I’m learning that one of the best ways to engage men is to get excited about what they can show or teach you.
Ask enthusiastic questions about what they do and what they know. Make sure they know from the get-go that they have SO much to contribute and you’re honored they’re spending time with you.
Men love to feel valued and appreciated. But they rarely feel that way, especially on a first date.
First dates are too often transactional. “Here’s what I can offer you, what have you got to offer me?”
By this point in my life, I’m learning that the most important message I can convey to men is: “I like you! I’m enjoying being with you.”
My pleasure and enthusiasm make me a great first date. I meet so many men through online dating that I’m on top of the world. I lose all my doubts that I’m unattractive or boring. I like the men I’m meeting, and they like me.
I wish EVERY woman could have that kind of experience…
To tap into the abundance of companionship that’s out there.
So I gathered all the tips and tricks I learned over years of meeting new people around the world…
And crammed them into my book Effortlessly Likable.
If you get nervous meeting strangers, if you don’t feel confident you can keep a conversation going, or if you just wish you could be more charismatic, this is the book for you!
I filled it with practical tips and fun stories that will have you laughing out loud.
Inside Effortlessly Likable, you’ll learn:
- The Vulnerability Effect: How to instantly make people like and trust you.
- Charisma Rituals: Simple habits to radiate confidence effortlessly.
- Attention Attractors: Techniques to stand out in any room.
- The Generosity Effect: How small acts of kindness make you unforgettable.
- The Similarity Effect: Build instant rapport with anyone.
- Become Inimitable: Stand out from the crowd in a way that’s uniquely you.
- Overcome Spotlight Fear: Learn to embrace attention instead of shrinking from it.
- The Connector Mindset: How to build social status by bringing people together.
This isn’t just about finding love. It’s about transforming the way you show up in every area of your life, including your career.
Don’t let the love of your life walk by because you’re too shy to take action.
Don’t wait for someone else to give you permission to shine.
You deserve to be seen, heard, and loved. It’s time to step into the spotlight and own it.
You could be that charismatic woman everyone remembers – get started today.
