When I began researching my book Unleash Your Pleasure Power, I uncovered some hard truths that made me a little sad.
There’s a reason women care so much about what men want in bed.
It’s because we’ve been taught that what happens in the bedroom is for men, not for us.
Research shows that many women value their partner’s pleasure more than their own. They’re satisfied if their partner is satisfied; it doesn’t matter whether they experienced pleasure.
Unfortunately, prioritizing your partner’s satisfaction over your own has consequences.
1. You may feel less entitled to pleasure, and
2. You may be less likely to communicate what you need in the bedroom.
The result is an intimate life designed around his needs, not yours.
Too many of us never learned how to communicate in the bedroom.
We’re hesitant to tell him when something he’s doing isn’t working for us.
We’re hesitant to tell him to do what we want—or maybe we don’t even know what we want.
Then, when it’s all over, we blame ourselves for the lack of fireworks.
The solution?
Become a Pleasure Detective.
Set yourself the task of finding out what your body enjoys the most. What situations, settings, and stimulation does your body like best?
Enlist your guy as co-detective. Have him help you figure out how much pleasure your body is capable of experiencing.
Many of us have never tapped into the fullest extent of our pleasure. Isn’t it time to see what you’re capable of?
